Master Manipulator and how Blame Shifting allowed more abuse.

So, from what I've been able to gather, when my abuser convinces people to be abusive, or harass me, or even poison me, he uses my own actions as an excuse. 

At the Sandwich shop I worked at there was talk of Poisoning rats. We actually did have some nice and rats, however, the fact that fight before I was rushed to the hospital right after filing a formal complaint and just after my manager and coworker discussed how there have been fewer rats after pest control came in and gave them poison. At which point the coworker stated that the poison is eaten by the rat and then the rat goes somewhere else and later dies. Leads me to believe the situation was being used to gave a double meaning. 

For the sake of their performance, I was the rat.

They were being compensated for their participation in my abuse and as such were being convinced that I was ratting them out and ruining their gun and opportunity. Which was a way for the stalker to manipulate my coworkers into doing things to try to keep me from talking about what he was doing to me. Because what bully wants to be found out? That's what bullies do that's the threat, "tell anyone and I'll hurt you".

Even though he was hurting me before I even knew what was going on. 

For some people in my family the excuse seems to be that I was bothering him, or I was not able to get over him. One person's explanation was that "I drove myself insane over some guy" (eject in fact the "insanity" was a symptom of the presumed bleach poisoning)

I even had one member of my family who was participating tell me "he washed his hands clean of you"... of that were the case, why continue to have my friends and family do these things?

This kind of behavior is specifically designed to take the attention away from the big picture, from the root of the problem. He was and is still stalking, hacking and harming me. 

Of he wasn't then these things would not happen and I would have no reason to continue to seek out help from the authorities to get him to leave me alone.

So, in my attempt to not only defend myself against abuser, but to also find out exactly who he was (since he lied about that) and how he was harming me (so I could both explain it and know how to gather the evidence to prove it) He also convinced anyone who could help me that I was in the wrong and therefore they shouldn't help me.

The stalker is a master manipulator who just didn't like being told no, didn't like that I had found out what he was doing to me and my children, and decided that turning others against me would provide enough threats to feet me to stop trying to defend myself against his abuse and allow him to continue to harm me whenever he wanted as he used to prior to my finding out what he was doing, without repercussions.