A few common themes from the abuser to try to excuse his own behavior.

What I've noticed are a few common themes the abuser tries to use when getting others to harass me at scissor waits he tries to manipulate me into not standing up for myself. 

1) "I love you": Getting random people to tell me "I love you". More recently having a woman in a black and white American Flag cowboy hat saying "No matter what happens, I'll always love you." This happened on my way home from work after a couple in a pickup truck with a giant black and white American flag came in. 

After work I stopped at my regular gas station to get my cats and I fresh water like I have to do every day after work because I can't trust that unsealed water left at home hadn't been poisoned while I was gone. 

Any way, this is an attempt to play on my emotions. Basically thinking that I need live gym some dude who I dint even want in my life let alone to be with him. 

And grind a random woman sitting next funny of the gas station, that just creepy and gross. 

Big fail of his part, it really just wanted me to get rid of him even more due to the disturbing presentation of the message. 

2) "Acts of Temporary Kindness"

Just because someone does something nice for your doesn't give them a right to be abusive to you. 

3) "Reminders of sexual abuseb children and neglect"

This is awful  that anyone ever had to go through something line this. 

However, being abused as a child is no excuse to harm others. It's actually a reason not to. 

Someone who knows what is like to be harmed by people they were supposed to be cared for by should know what is like to be a victim, to be hurt or harmed and shouldn't do mean things to others.

It's not an excuse or a few pass to be abusive to someone else. 

4) "Everyone makes mistakes"

This one makes me laugh on the inside... some of his "Actors" tries to remind me that everyone makes mistakes. This is an attempt at planting it in my head that he's just made a little mistake and it should be forgiven and I should move on...

Stalking, harassing, poisoning, hacking and constantly disrupting a person's life isn't a mistake. It's repetitive abuse. It's done on purpose so it's not an accident, it's known to to be harmful, or illegal, or unwanted so it's not a misjudgment. 

It's just some sicko making up excuses for really shitty behavior.

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