Don't stay quiet

I was in a situation in my 20's where I had to do what the abuse advocates say and stay quiet. Quietly plan my exit, don't let him know, continue to fake liking him and appease him until everything is set up and I could safely make my escape. 

My first boyfriend, he passed away during covid and will never see this for me to worry about him coming after me for speaking out. 

To leave, I talked to a friend who said I could stay with her. Got myself a car. And while he was at work, without him knowing what I was ding or where I was going, I grabbed clothes, my cat and left. 

This isn't the same kind of situation. I tried being quiet but no matter how much I tried to figure out an escape strategy there was none.

Ely has spent enough time prior to me knowing what he was doing implanting himself into my life. I'm certain he doesn't have to work for a living and therefore can indulge in his sickness. Indulge in watching me, hiring people to watch me, tracking me, making sure there is no way for my to make a move without him catching wind of it. And then doing things when the mood strikes him to make my life harder, or make me suffer or struggle, just because he wants to and he can. 

Being quiet when you have no privacy isn't an option, so, I've chosen to be loud. I report actions. Not all of them because I do actually have to quell for a living, and harder than most people at times because of what he's able to do. Because of the tools and resources at his disposal to make things harder for me. To keep me from being able to gather the appropriate and safe resources to get away. 

So, I talk about when I feel like it or when I think it'll actually help get word out about what he's doing to people who can actually help make it stop. To the people who might actually be able to get him.

I point it what he's doing so he knows he's not fooling me, he's not controlling me, because I know what he's doing and how he's trying to do so. 

I keep posting so that others will see and tell him no if he contacts them. Or so that if something unfortunately happens to me he will be the one that everyone I know it that are questioned points the finger at. 

I keep telling, speaking up and reporting because that's the only way to make it stop in this situation. To get the attention of the Pele who can do something to make him finally stop and leave me alone. 
 
That's the only way to expose the monster that would rather hide in the shadows and preys on another human being. 

I bring in the light and expose the things in the darkness for the disgusting monster that he is. 

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